hi Mirage, I have a question for you, if that's ok. My mlcer is -so far- also having an internal mlc and is still at home, ten months after bd. He has been to a coach and a therapist, bought a selfhelp book about mindfullnes and is now considering seeing a psychotherapist. He's very distant towards me and doesn't want to spend time with me. Sometimes I feel he just can't stand being in the same room/house with me so he takes off for a while. He has talked about leaving in the beginning, but from the time I started leaving him alone and stopped asking questions, he hasn't talked about leaving. I saw your response on hrm's tread, about you remembering your feelings about blaming yor wife for everything, and I think my mlcer feels the same way about me, although he never really monsters at me. my question is, if you felt that way about your wife for a long time and blamed her, why did you stay? And what made you do the soulsearching if you thought she was to blame? And I also would like to know if you told other people about the relationship issues, or that you managed to keep it all between the two of you for the whole time?
I'm hoping you find the time to respond, because so far your mlc looks a lot like the mlc my h is having. And I know that no mlc is exactly the same, I hope to get some more insight from someone who has lived it and get the strenght to keep doing what I'm doing.
