hi Mirage, I have a question for you, if that's ok. My mlcer is -so far- also having an internal mlc and is still at home, ten months after bd. He has been to a coach and a therapist, and is now considering seeing a psychotherapist. He's very distant towards me and doesn't want to spend time with me. Sometimes I feel he just can't stand being in the same room/house with me so he takes off for a while. He has talked about leaving in the beginning, but from the time I started leaving him alone and stopped asking questions, he hasn't talked about leaving. I saw your response on hrm's tread, about you remembering your feelings about blaming yor wife for everything, and I think my mlcer feels the same way about me, although he never really monsters at me. my question is, if you felt that way about your wife for a long time and blamed her, why did you stay? And what made you do the soulsearching if you thought she was to blame? And I also
