Why do they want to be friends?Even when they spew at us,cheat on us and try to run off with every cent?
But in their minds it is all justified, and in another bit of their minds [for want of a better word] they do not want to be the bad guy.
My xh used to say to me quite petulantly that other divorced couples got along, and why couldn't we, Of course it was my fault that we didn't/couldn't.
But actually a bit of them has never left, isn't doing all this stuff. There is so much magical thinking going on.
My xh's latest comment a few months back was that I couldn't cope with him having relationships with other women. As if a normal person would be fine about it. But in his mind I am still the problem. Never mind we have been divorced for several years. He is still hanging around on the edges of my life
They are so muddled it can seem pointless trying to really understand, and yet there is the weird logic of the really messed up person going on which makes it strangely explicable, but totally insane from our perspective.
