Cadet, Exactly! What happened to the darn edit button?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Yep, always and never are bandied about like cheap candy on a regular basis. That seems pretty "normal" in these situations from what I've seen and read. A lot to do with depression I would guess. Ditching the friends too. Lots of drama.
And thinking they want to be friends with the LBS? Seems pretty common as well. Makes some sense though - they did spend a lot of time with us, right?
Portia, I don't think I've seen that one. That is a little different in some ways, but it may be that yours hasn't finished re-writing yet?
It does seem that all efforts share the same goal of justification of the behavior though. I see a common thread with different actions in these postings. Anyone else?
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
LOL! Just like our expectations should be w/the mlcer!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
My H plays the "always" and "never" record too. For instance, I, apparently, was always jealous of everyone. There were a couple of instances years and years ago, but at that time he did go on a bit how brilliant those women were. And, I never trusted him. Not true. I trusted him enough to move to two new countries, even to a whole brand spanking new continent (from my perspective).
In the end, he gave me good reason to be jealous and mistrustful. I haven't been jealous of anyone for years .... he's not that good looking anymore. No, kidding. But, I have been suspicious of affairs, and I was right, unfortunately. How I wish I hadn't been.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Hahaha! Snodderly, I do wish we had an edit button for them. Or, a reboot system.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
It's not just coast to coast...it's world wide. They all say similiar things and some even do the exact same things. It's depression at its finest.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
And thinking they want to be friends with the LBS? Seems pretty common as well. Makes some sense though - they did spend a lot of time with us, right?
My H said that a few weeks into the separation. "This is going good. This is how it could be if we're D. We can hang out and be friends." I told him without missing a beat, "If we get D, I am not going to be your friend."
M38,H39 M:16Y BD:8/12 OWDB:11/12 S:11/12-5/13 "Temp" home:6/13 OW dropped:9/13 "I love you":12/13 H ring on:2/14 Depression back:5/15 "I'm done:" 7/15 H moved out: 3/16 H moved back: 12/16 Working on us: 3/17
where do they get the script from? how is it coast to coast they do the same things and use the same lines without sharing info?
There is a book called The Script The 100% Absolutely Predictable Things Men Do When They Cheat it is a pretty easy read, and you can learn all the lines.
