This guy posted on here over 12 years ago in the middle of his situation and came back 1 or 2 years ago to write an update. He was still with his wife at the time of writing.
Read David's posts as well if you can find them.
Best,
GH31
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)