You are not alone. There are men here who have walked the same treacherous path you're treading now and who have made it to the other side.
Go and read the posts I wrote on Denver_2010's thread and even more so, read what Denver himself had to say.
He got his wife back.
So did Starsky & Jack_Three_Beans. There are others whose names escape me. Nathan and David posted here back in 1999 but I don't know if their posts are still around. You'll need to get your searching fingers typing. There's another poster named Phoenixdeux here who was a great help to me. He actually got divorced and then he and his wife remarried some time later.
Read, print off, and study the threads of men who successfully did what you yourself want to do.
APPLY the lessons.
There are common threads and characteristics although each journey will be different in the detail.
What you need to do more than anything else is to learn how women really tick, especially in the context of relationships and marriage. All of us can get better at it but for you to have a shot at saving your marriage you need to do this urgently.
Remember, Divorce Busting is the following two things:
1. Do what works 2. Reject what doesn't work.
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
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