Its been a few weeks since i last posted, but here is the curve ball I am dealing with... she is moving... on January 6th to Colorado to be with her family...
and it just brings on a new kind of emotion.. like is he only with me because his first choice left? Although he says that isn't true... I knew something had to change.. that we could not keep living this way and as long as we lived in the same city it would stay the same..
I just thought it would be me leaving instead ....
Its so confusing and I am giving space and just keeping to myself and focusing on my crazy work schedule... I do not know where to go or how things will work out...
but thought it was worth posting
M-28 H-28 M-9 1/2 years T- 12 years PA- 01/02/12 (still going on)
Part of the problem with the "just wait out the affair" approach is that if OW/OM dumps them, it's highly likely that there then becomes an OW2/OM2 since you've never:
a. Learned to successfully lay out and enforce personal boundaries; and
b. Fixed those behaviors in yourself that may have contributed to the marital dysfunction to such an extent that your spouse thought it was okay to have an affair.
