Ruby. Thx. GAL is a huge problem for me lately and I DONT KNOW WHY. I can't seem to force myself out of the house after kids goto bed etc.
The other issue is I feel my W is smack dab in the middle of EA or PA.
Ruby I do spiral but I feel its more when my W starts to be disrespectful to me. Txting men and secretive phone stuff seems to trigger me. Then i think to myself wouldn't that trigger any spouse?
You are right either way I need to GAL.
After not sleeping all night I decided not to confront my W this am. My daughter got up early and was in the room. My W was working today from 9-12 which I forgot about and I just thought it would do me no good 5 days before Xmas and relatives visiting. So I am going to SUCK it up and be a man. Accept that W is going to do these things.
After thinking it out I just thought it would escalate on her end.
I just have no confidence in what to say to her and how to say it to her. Without coming across as a tyrant or dictator.
My counselor suggested me saying this:
"Is there any chance in us salvaging this M"
Not sure I agree with this ^^
he suggested that instead of confronting her about OM and txting. He just felt if I confront her at all no matter how careful I am she will get on the defense and it will escalate.
I am NOT GOING TO LIE to anyone on this forum. I am having a tough few days. Being disrespected by W when I work all day long to pay bills and provide for the family is gut wrenching. I am having a very tough last few days. Meditation isn't helping me the last few days.
I am going to try to get out tonight and play cards
