The green green grass of home. (Part 2 )

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SS,

It is normal to have the feelings you are experiencing. I believe that it is best to feel those hurts to allow yourself to move passed them.

Usually where we keep our focus, affects our emotional state. So if your focus remains on your H for long periods of time, the more hurt will are likely to feel. Your last few posts have been focused on him.

My suggestion is to focus on the things that are within your control. Focus on yourself and your children. I really liked that you took them out on your own to see the Christmas lights. You should be proud of yourself. That is a step in the right direction.

For myself, I know that I asked, "why?" a lot. Why is my W doing this? Doesn't she see that we can make this work? Doesn't she see the destruction she is causing? Etc.

All those questions are fruitless and frustrating. They are a waste of time, because even if there were answers, there isn't much you can do.....except live your life as a positive influence, which you should be doing regardless.

Focus on getting to that happy place that is not dependent on another person. Continue taking those positive steps and make beautiful memories with your children.

I'm interested in knowing what steps you are taking or planning to take on your journey to happiness. You can and will get there.