H said that rather than changed MCs, he'd rather move out....I think he's driving that boat. All in all, I think these are the right things:
- standing up for what you believe - detaching - focusing on YOU - continue to work on your issues with IC
Honestly, you say you've been working on this for 6 months Regret, but I don't think you've really DB'd. You've pursued because you thought you were seeing positive results. You stay in the den because you're afraid to stand up to H. You've been entirely too wrapped up in H to this point and I really see this as your starting point.
I absolutely do not agree with running to OM3 or planning it, or anything related to it. While the flirting is ok, unless you figure your own issues out, you'll likely be attracted to the same negatives that drew you to your H and you'll end up in the same place. I understand the attraction, believe me, I had a similar encounter this week, but I don't think it's the right course of action.
Personally, I wouldn't give up on the M....but I do think you may have to feel like you are to get your head straight. Does that make sense?
From what I read, I see you finally breaking out of that shell. I see your strength. To steal a phrase from Ruby, make sure you use your newly found super powers for good.
