GH31 by all means don't be blunt with me. I am here to seek the help of people like yourself who successfully changed themselves enough to.where it was visible to their wives. Please do not hold back!
As far as my druggie partner, let me tell you it ended. All of a auden he.stopped showing up to work. One week later my parents came to stay with us from out of town. They stayed for a week, and all through that week I acting like nothing was happening. A week after they left (3 weeks of no.partner) I told my wife about what was going on and that I had pushed so far mentally that he has agreed to sell me his share of the business. Now this was an important change for me because other times he had done this to me I was an emotional wreck and went running to my wife for reassurance.but then didn't listen to her solutions. Wife told me how come you.didnt tel me? All that time your parents where here and you were going through this alone? I told her I thought it was time for me to be a man and do what is best for me and my family. I took my partner down! I dismantled.him.emotianally over 3 weeks into he couldn't take it anymore! She was SO proud of me! She say there beaming smile, and said doesn't it feel good to.get rid of someone like that? Now you own the business you worked.so.hard on your own to build. It was a turning point for us, and we went out and celebrated. That was seven months ago. Unfortunately this still did not fix my financial situation because it was summer which is slow season for my business. So my mental state improved, only to be squished.again when I realized it wasn't doing anything for our budget.
Me, H-34 now 38 W-32 now 35 T-13 now 18 years M-6 now 9 Daughter 3 years now 7 Bomb 11/27/12 - OM 1 year in house separation Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017