My S24 asked me today what would I do if I won a substantial amount of money...my answer with not much thought was I would leave dad and GAL that is worthy of me, and makes me happy.
wow, I was amazed at how much I ment that. S24 said it's sad, he has us here to help, but you have to do what makes you happy, mom. My S21 chimed in saying I'm sick of d and I don't even want anything to do with him anymore. He won't help himself or let us help, than F*** him, I have not respect for him.
S21 and H were best buds, it was like S was born for H, I was just the baker. They look alike, work in the same field, and now my youngest out of 3 S's hates his dad to the point of disgust. He even refuses to sugar coat the sitch when asked about H in public, saying that maybe one day H will man up and realize that of all the men they work with (many crews) his dad is the biggest looser.
My family is so injured by all of this. H is here everyday, but not really. His wife wants to leave him, his boys have no respect for him, and his D18 said she doesn't care anymore.
hold on...make change...wait for a natural outcome...run screaming?
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!