Same Old Wagon Wheel Part 6

[MrBond]

"Doesn't by just doing that mr b makes me coming across as controlling the one trait she hates in me."

I don't know how many times I have to say this. All the WAS's accuse the LBS of being controlling. LISTEN VERY CAREFULLY...

You are not going to tell her that she can't talk on the phone or text other men, etc. because you have no right to tell someone else what they can or can't do.

YOU WILL tell her that you would like to know is she is contacting other men. Tell her that you feel disrespected by her actions and while you understand how she had felt distanced in the marriage, you will not tolerate her actions. You will not fund her habits and that she is more than welcome to get a job to take care of her phone bill, etc. but you will not spend YOUR money doing so.

No accusations. No telling her she can't or can do something. Just telling her straight what you will not tolerate.