Stuck between a hard place and the biggest rock.

[bustorama]

tell her I love her enough to let her go if that's what she chose.

This respects her. Doing otherwise, as you have been doing, is about your wishes and your needs and is disrespecting and invalidating her. Do you see that?

Now I'm sick and tired of being the nice guy and seeing nothing in return.

You feel this way because, in reality, you have NOT been "the nice guy." You have been "giving" with expectations (of getting "something in return"). That she "should" come back. That you could "get her" to come back. Essentially that you could control and manipulate her thoughts and feelings via your actions. This is co-dependence. Don't tit for tat.

The resentment you feel is because you have been violating your own boundaries. She hasn't done anything to you. You have done it to yourself. If it is against your boundaries to be in a relationship with someone who does not act lovingly towards you, then leave that relationship. You only have yourself to blame if you persist in a relationship in which you are not treated the way that you would like to be treated.

Anyone normal would have already come back or at least sat down to talk.

This is a Disrespectful Judgement that you have made. Google it on the Marriage Builders site. From her point of view, it may make perfect sense why she has not come back to sit down and talk with you. You say it is not normal because it does not conform to your view of the world. There are other views of the world. Get outside yourself.

If she had a little bit of heart or compassion, she wouldn't let me go through all of it the way I did. She's clearly not a good-hearted person.

Seriously?!?! If I didn't know better, I would almost think you were trolling.

Your emotional world is all over the map, Bruce. I imagine that must be hard for you to live with and also may be hard for others around you. Yes, rejection and involuntary detachment are very painful. Are you seeing an individual counselor to help steady you day-to-day. Do it for your son, if not for yourself.