I see that you have a cautious/guarded attitude, whioh is what you need now, to protect yourself.
My coach says to lean toward actual friendship. There's a guy who posted about his marrying his XW after a year being divorced, and he said he became his XW's close friend before she decided to change her mind.
I know it's hard. All of us women on the board seem to be dealing with the whole friendship thing...
