"I have blackslid and done the wrong thing at every intersection."

But you CAN stop that.

"Try as I might, I am just not able to emotionally detach enough to act in proper DB fashion."

Yes you can. You just haven't started.

"My hindsight has been 50/50, but that doesn't do much good."

Yes it does as long as you learn from each interaction.

"With that said, Divorce is now a reality."

It doesn't have to be.

"her mother has called me threatening sever legal action during the divorce, in which I replied to by hanging up on her."

why? You know that's something you could have controlled.

"It's simply starting to get ugly."

Stop contributing to it.

"It appears to be over. I have lost almost all hope of reconciling...barely even a pipe dream at this point."

That's up to you.

"During our counseling session, we more or less argued about everything."

Do you lose your cool? If so, that's something you have to take care of.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER