If she feels like the trust is gone (which it has in a lot of ways to be fair) and that she no longer knows me because of some of my reactions over the last two months, how do we get beyond this?
One of my 180's has been to not let the emotion of being cheated on cause me to get angry. Generally I have done pretty well with this but when there has been the odd outburst and argument over this its all she focuses on.
With all the talking we still do and her dread of moving out (although she is still proceeding with it) I cant help but feel there are still some nagging doubts in her own mind about what it is she actually wants out of all this.
If it is just a best friend and partly for the sake of the children she is going to be sorely dissapointed.
For my own sanity and ability to move on, I need to minimize the contact with her going forward.
What I am interested in is how people find the balance between being civil, nice etc but yet showing wife that being best freinds is not acceptable?
