The problem with my wife is that she is a complex person. She doesn't really go crazy over gifts, however she likes to give big gifts. That seems like a contradiction to me.
I guess I can narrow it down that it's not physical touch or quality time for her. The physical touch thing I think comes her upbringing. The quality time doesn't seem that important, but her OWN quality time is very important to her. She needs time and space (even before everything) and I do compliment her a lot.
For acts of service I do lots of acts of service for her...maybe I"m not hitting the right buttons. Get her coffee, make the bed and bigger stuff too.
The book had some advice for how to find it and I will work on that. I know my needs aren't important, but I do want to comment on what you said 25 about me. i did the quiz in the book and mine came out to physical touch and quality time. basically the opposite of my wife. in regards to physical touch yes I enjoy a roll in the hay, but the best thing any of my girlfriends or wife used to do was hold hands with fingers mixed. so it's not 100% about sex.
Don't thrash me, but I was watching the Oprah network last night. They have this show on cheating. You basically hear it from the cheater and the spouse. they don't use the same words as here, but the concepts are the same. it was an eye opener.
I want to apologize to my wife for the stuff I've don't, but I don't think now is the time. I am also want to bring up couples counseling since that seemed to help a lot of people on the show.
