2. Do not INITIATE any contact with W. Leave her alone until she approaches you.
3. Listen
4. Make a wonderful life for you and your S. Make up for lost time. Appreciate him for who he is, not what you wish to make him.
5. Listen
6. Control yourself
7. Listen
Bruce, I'd like you to try an exercise. Make an inventory of all the ways that you think you hurt W in your R. Every single way across all the years that you were together. Where did you go wrong for each act? How would you amend for each act? Cann you identify patterns in the way you hurt her? Then internalize all that. Don't show it to her or say anything to her about it.
From your messages, you still do not appear to understand that you are where you are because you have not listened to her and not valued her beliefs and feelings. You are still having problems getting out of your own mind and feelings to empathize with her point of view.
Me-53 W-49 D22,D18,D15 T-Since-12/2001 Married-9/2004 She Moved Out-5/28/2010 Piecing start-04/2011 Now-together Thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2079304
