My wife wants to separate

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I have noticed something new in her behavior and was not really sure why. I have noticed that whatever I say is met with some anger. If she didn't quite hear what I said, she will say "WHAT?" in an angry tone. If I ask her where something is in the house or if she knows the answer to something, she snaps at me or gives a sarcastic answer. So it would appear the backlash you are talking of might be the cause of this. This wasnt the case during the first 2 weeks of relationship with OM. During that time, she looked happy and on top of the world, calm and collected. That is why i had asked in an old post if you guys are sure the WAW has a whirlwind in her head because my W didn't seem like that at all. She seemed done with the marriage, done with me, and ready to move on. She even seemed withdrawn from our daughter.

The last couple days she has been asking me how my day was and if I need a nap because I looked after the baby while she was gone. Last night she went to spend the night at OM and left me with our daughter. I did bath and dinner and story time and put her to bed. Then at 3:30am she woke up and I had to figure out a way to get her back to sleep. I ended up on the couch with her on my shoulder for the rest of the night so she could sleep, although I didn;t get even a wink of sleep.

It is sad now what has happened to me. I worked so hard and setup a household that works together. I work hard to make the money and my wife takes care of the house and baby. So in a situation like last night, she would have stayed up with her all night so that I can sleep so I can go to work. Then she would nap when D goes to school. This is the second time this exact situation has happened and both times it has been when W is spending night at OM. So now I have to work to pay all the bills and secure the future of my daughter, and possibly my wife if she chooses to follow through with Divorce (Alimony etc..) and also have to live the single parent lifestyle. I love my daughter to death and enjoy every minute with her! i stood my ground on custody and told my wife if you leave, you leave on your own, My daughter has my last name, and this has been her house and her bedroom since she was born. She will stay here with me regardless of what you decide to do.

today W is telling me we should keep daughter home from school for the next couple weeks until after new year when she starts her new school. So that means the W will be at our house all the time, and not sure when she thinks she will squeeze time to visit OM 1,5 hours away. I think she feels bad and the guilt of feeling like she is abondoning her daughter is setting in. My W is a wonderful mother and from the day of the B, she has tried to convince me that our daughter will not suffer or pay the price for this. I of course told her that is impossible because a home with mommy and daddy is ALWAYS better than a single parent household or joint custody. I think she got a taste of that a couple times now because she had no way of being there for our daughter when she needed her the most. Daughter had a fever and daddy had to take care of her all night instead of mommy and I think that is bothering her.

I hope there are some reality checks of how a broken home functions and how the kids pay the ultimate price. That would pull on the guilt strings without me doing it myself.