First of all, great response to the fb posting questions...it IS her business (choices/karma/etc) so non-judgementally throw the responsibility back where it belongs --> to her. By doing so your are probably reacting in a way she is not expecting, and as her attempts at "negative attention" fall flat, eventually she'll figure out that it isn't working and maybe she'll see you differently than she expects, which will throw her for a loop.
The other new positive stuff? Well, MAYBE she is starting to MAYBE glimpse reality, or at least "trying on" continuing being with you. Maybe her parents had a little talk with her, who knows. I watched this happen with my W, in April she was still making social profiles under her maiden name, still cold and done as far as she expressed to me. In May something changed, last OM showed true colors, something...I am not sure, who knows. This is when she warmed up a bit, some future "we" things started slipping out of her mouth, she started being concerned with what I may think, feel, etc. She returned to MBR bed. Lots of back and forth through the summer with noticeable warming (some hugs, etc). This fall has been few hugs, but warming in other areas (though not physically) so it's like watching a Wimbledon tennis match.
I don't know about your W, but mine, once she makes her mind up about something, she hangs onto it very stubbornly. And these OPs are like drugs, very similar physiological effects, ever quit smoking? It's like that... so be ready for the back and forth.
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we have been talking a lot more - this morning she talked to me for 45 minutes about her new job - its hard for me to listen - so this is a big 180 for me - I paused the TV and sat and listened to her.
Perfect...this is how you SHOW, your actions say much more truth than words...and so do HERS.
Maybe this could be some warming, hard to say. Interesting she was waiting up for you at 3am...Maybe do a little bit more of that, see if her curiosity gets tickled. Of course, this is all speculation, so your mileage may vary...
Just keep being the new improved Sunny, stay detached, expect nothing, stay out of her way, stay out of yours, keep moving forward...how are your other GAL activities going?
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
