She seems to be burying her head in the sand at the moment in terms of those realities and I think that she expects me to be avaialable or come running for her needs even after she has left! Im not going to allow that to happen. She needs to see the consequences of her actions IMHO.
Does she understand this? If not, you may want to consider informing her at some point. Make it about your principles, not your emotions. In a very calm and matter of fact tone, let her know you will not allow her to disrepect the marriage in this manner and remain friends. No vengeance, just pure principle.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
