Hi Sandi, and thank you. I didn't see your reply as I was just posting (another head banging experience from last night, haha) but you make more than enough sense! Just one quick thing: as far as I know he's only had 1 A in the past, not 2. I hope I don't find out otherwise, but you are absolutely correct in that I'm accepting crumbs by even asking qs and letting him control our R. I thought I was doing really well with the detaching but I have to step it up into high gear is right! Oy vey. Thank you again for your insight. I have a lot of work to do still.
