Can you truly detach and live under the same roof with WAS? I feel like the people I talk to about detachment don't do this until they are physically dating someone else or have moved on completely.
I try everyday to treat my W as a roomate and believe me I don't react to her stuff to her. I do bring energy to it by posting here and talking to counselor about it. But I'm a talker. I like to talk and get things out.
I feel like part of DB veterans say "do nothing. no not give energy to her"
Part of me feels like I let her treat me like a doormat when doing above
Also. Do you think the WAS will do stuff like I mentioned above "Im going out etc" as a test to see if she can gain a reaction out of me?
I really don't get how you guys detach. Seems like lots of people including Mr. B were not living under the same roof. even 25 if I get it right you guys weren't under the same roof for awhile. In that case i would guess detaching could be a little easier.
I do know this. I still let her moods dictate mine at times. That is not healthy
