So I have decided that I need to flush my mind of thinking of ways to make her change her mind. Its doing me no good whatsoever.
I cannot change something that I have no control over. I can only control me!
The last 2 months have been hell really. I feel that I have been as understanding as a man in my position could possibly be. Yes, there have been bad days where the hurt and anger have come through and yes, there has been a lot of mistrust and arguments on both sides, but generally, I have tried to be as supportive and friendly to my wife as possible whilst also using the DB advice to try and make improvements that would help our marriage situation.
She now states that the emotional rollercoaster of this last 2 months has left her feeling like she no longer knows me and that she has completely shut the door on us.
My gut feeling tells me that whilst this may be true to a certain extent, her overiding feelings for the OM (I really believe that she thinks she is already in love with this guy) are the real reasons behind all this. This is a man that she barely knows. It all seems so very weird to me.
As my time and communication drops with her after she leaves, I can only have some hope that the reality of life out of the family home will have some effect on her state of mind. She seems to be burying her head in the sand at the moment in terms of those realities and I think that she expects me to be avaialable or come running for her needs even after she has left! Im not going to allow that to happen. She needs to see the consequences of her actions IMHO.
