Great! Putting together your comments/ Qs will really help.
Tell me what behaviors make you think she's distant. Have you noticed anything that draws her in? This is a good thing to think about, so you can do more of what works.
The intrusive thoughts/patience running out will come and go, as you know. I'm kind of glad I'm not in that stage anymore, even though it'd be nice to not have those D papers filed.
Hang in there. You're doing so well! I was thinking this AM that if my H had a tenth of your drive to make your M work, he and I would be happy together now. Your W is a lucky woman.
