Changing Directions

[labug]

In the drama triangle we all change positions, the challenge is in breaking the cycle.

I saw myself as the victim a lot but I also moved to the other roles until I decided to break the cycle.

Don't have expectations about what others might think of you. It limits you.

I was afraid to let go of my expectations because with them I could control the encounter, I knew exactly how it was going to play out as I had rehearsed it in my head.

Many times you get what you expect, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. I assumed my role and the other person, if not really healthy, assumed theirs. It's the people who had their sh!t together and didn't play the game that really threw me for a loop.

I immediately classified them as arrogant a$$holes or they just didn't get how difficult my life was. I switched from victim to persecutor. And there were always people to rescue so I could get pats on the head.

And the role-playing continued.

Life is much better without all that.