Ugh, I'm so sorry for the convo you had with your MIL. If you mentioned it in previous posts, sorry for not remembering, but is there any way for you to get your own place, or move out with roommates, or even back in with your folks? I'm wondering if you were just able to get to a healthier place, with less connection to your H, would it help you feel stronger and safer in your decisions?
IMO, I wouldn't confront H with your parents there. This could be seen as your family ganging up on him and the outcome your hoping for may not arise. Enjoy your visit with your parents and use this time to get some much needed support from people who love you. Don't share that time with him. Be a little selfish here and remember you deserve to feel loved, regardless of the direction the love is coming from.
Can I ask you what type of response are you hoping to get from your H if you reach out to him right now?
