I'm so tired of meeting men my age who are complete 'train wrecks' that I am back in therapy, off ALL dating sites, and will begin a 6-week relationship course through my church in Jan. I'm going to work on "me" to try and figure this out.
I agree with kml. The single men are not like I remember in my 20's. I'm patient and I know that if I'm supposed to be with someone I will, but it's SO frustrating!!
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
Well I haven't had much luck with the single women either, until recently at least. However after almost 3 years of kissing more than a few frogs I am hoping that I have found my "princess" in the form of a cute little Oncology Nurse! We have been dating about 5 weeks now and there have been no red flags at all yet! She seems to be as in to me as I am in to her. I'm guardedly optimistic! Hang in there everyone, it can happen! Best of luck to all!
Okay everyone, I need your positive thoughts my way! I'm in the 'second round' for being selected to be in a magazine featuring elgibile singles in the Boulder, CO area. When I applied I had completely forgotten about it and just completed the questionnaire a few minutes ago. Hmm...this could be exciting!
Then, I met a nice guy Friday night when I was out dancing with my teacher friends. I was NOT looking at all....Guess that's how things go, huh?
Keep me in your thoughts...please!!!
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
Just back from a lovely date myself with the new Love Avoidant guy. Ok - before Barb and Oldtimer start reading me the riot act - I'll just say, I've learned a few things about myself thinking about this all the past couple of weeks:
1) I pick these guys because I, right now, am kinda Love Avoidant myself. I need to own up to that. I'm not ready for a guy who wants a full relationship - what I would like is something in the middle, a guy I see sometimes and talk to often, but who doesn't clutter up my very busy life. Since those aren't so easy to find, I've been ending up with more severely Love Avoidant guys. But I have to confess, they've suited me better than guys who want the whole enchilada. For now.
2) I have to stop calling New Love Avoidant guy that. He needs another name - how about Artist Guy? Because I find that while the LA paradigm is useful, I am also making ASSumptions based on that label I have given him - assumptions that are turning out to be wrong. So, while accepting that he IS Love Avoidant, I need to acknowledge that he's not nearly the same as the previous boyfriend I'm expecting him to act like - and, in fact, in many ways he's much more similar to me. So I need to just stop my controlling ways and let him show me who he is. So far, he's showing me he has a lot more room for me in his life than I initially thought.
We have been dating about 5 weeks now and there have been no red flags at all yet! She seems to be as in to me as I am in to her. I'm guardedly optimistic! Hang in there everyone, it can happen! Best of luck to all!