I'm glad they didn't show up. I think your xh told your d10 about the ow and coming to the show just so she would tell you. Why? To get you bent out of shape and not enjoy the show. I think I would sit d10 down and talk to her about what she's telling you. I hate to say this, but she may be carrying info back to your xh as well and I don't think you want him to know all of your business. She's old enough to know better and I think once you discuss this w/her, she'll be a lot better about "carrying the mail" to and from the two houses.

Now, about your xh, leave his sorry @ss outside and start enjoying the holiday season. You know that they act up this time of year and you have to learn to shut the door on their antics and try not to allow them to interfere in the light and fun times. You can do this!

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.