They have to repeat things over and over again until the thoughts become their mantra. They have to not only convince the world, but also themselves, when they are doing something that goes completely against the grain.
Jigsaw puzzle is very accurate analogy of the mlcer and their lives. They are very much like Humpty Dumpty too, when you think about it. They are broken into bits and then try to scamper to put themselves back together again and it doesn't always take.
Thus, the rewriting of history, the anger and the need to flee what once was. So sad.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.