So, I seem to need to post a lot tonight. I was feeling sad and decided to keep reading and reading the posts. I came across one that especially helped me by Lonely in SLC (http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2302067#Post2302067)

It is possible and it does happen. Something I see a lot is how the WAW sometimes would show such contempt for his/her spouse or would do the ILYNILWY speech, and probably mean it at the time. But yet, somehow, with time, space and healing would slowly loose this frame of mind. Of course, I know this is a minority of the people, and that's ok, all I am looking for is hope that it's possible and this will give me strength to keep moving forward. I have left expectation at the curb, and only hold on to hope. Expectation started to feel like an anchor, holding me down, slowing me down, it just got too heavy to keep carrying around. Hope is so different than expectation. Hope pulls me forward, expectation holds me back...

MrBond, I'm not sure the what the reason is, not sure why your words sounded harsh, sounded angry, but I know there is a reason it was put on my post. I am not a very religious person, but I do believe in energy, we all have an energy that we share with the world. At times that energy draws us closer, at times it pushed us apart. Your energy was pushing me away from you but I have learned to try to recognize when I am feeling a negative reaction to someone or something for what it is - the energy of the world trying to teach me something. I know you were put here for a reason, and even if I feel a negative energy coming from you, I will learn from it - so, in a way, I thank you for that.

Enough for tonight, I need to sleep and get refreshed...

'night all...