Niceguy, in the grander scheme of things I have not been at this much longer than you. If I knew the answers to thise questions, I likely would not be on the board. This whole thing [censored] for everyone. While we have not been perfect, nobody is. They have bigger issues than us in their psyches. Deep within. It is sad.

M17 yrs.
me49
xW47
d15
d11

BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out)
Therapy 9 months (tried 2)
BD2- May/12(sep)
Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50
Sold home - Aug/13
Court #2 - Dec/13
Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again
We settled.