Now, depression and not wanting to do anything, and feeling like a loser, is pretty standard LBS stuff. Do you read other threads here? Find some vets you respect and go back to their beginnings and you'll find the exact same. DB even has a plan for how to help you feel better, appear more attractive and confident, and be best poised to create a newer better relationship if and when your WAS expresses interest in that. You are so far from that. You're right at the beginning.
Have you ever read the rules posted in the newcomers section? Get busy, get a life. Don't mope around and do nothing in between visits. Read them and try them and see how you do.
I'm sorry that you're down, this is very very hard. But you're getting good advice and you're arguing arguing arguing against it. That's not helping.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.