My H has completely rewritten history to the point of saying that he always took care of me and I never took care of him. Seriously? I cannot imagine the horrible mental state he is in to believe all the garbage that he has made up in his head. He says that I'm selfish but when I ask for specific examples, there are none to be had. In fact, when I ask for specific examples regarding most of his ridiculous claims about my role in the "failure" of our marriage, he can not think of A SINGLE ONE.
I think the rewriting of history was the singlemost shocking part of this whole MLC for me. A good friend of mine shared some fantastic advice she got from her therapist: it was never as bad as he remembers and probably never as good as you remember it either. I think that's a fair assumption. You make a choice as to how you remember the events your life and you are in control of your happiness. They are choosing to see (and create) the bad where little or none existed.
You're braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. -Christopher Robin to Pooh
Romans 12:12 Rejoice in your hope, be patient in suffering, persevere in prayer.
