Is this the place for me?

[MrBond]

"However, having feelings of a need, yet knowing it should not be followed up on are not one in the same."

Moot point. There are times when musings should be acted upon and sometimes it takes an outside listener to suggest it.

Look. You screwed your first W and didn't know what she was going through. You just cared about yourself. Now the roles are reversed. Sometimes the LBS needs closure and sometimes they don't. It's like dealing with an alcoholic.