When I didn't get any money from H, I had to figure out how to acquire money to support my Ds and myself. I took money out of our home equity loan. Paid for a lawyer with some of the money, rest went in my checking account. H found out after about three weeks. He was PO!, even though he has taken four times as much out of the account at other times. He told me because I took from the account, he is not ever sending another dime. What a jerk. Still wants to be in control. I bet he couldn't believe I would even know to take money from that account. It wasn't what I wanted to do, but I am not letting him withhold money from me being able to take care our Ds. I filed a petition for a financial separation on the 12th. Waiting for him to be served. He's out of the country until after the first of the year. My lawyer may have papers served to him thru his lawyer. I made sure that a request for divorce was NOT included in the petition. I want the money, not the divorce. He has screwed up from the start with his affair. He will be the one to file for divorce. He will have that on his conscious too. I'll know I've been doing everything I can to save our marriage. He can live with the guilt when he comes out of his fantasy life.
