My wife wants to separate

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So actually KLB, GroceryKartman, and FloydMand AND ME, we all share the SAME story! So, I need you guys to help me out since you have been at this for long than I have. I have these questions, and I realize you cannot make changes just to get someone back, they have to be sincere:

1) How do you make your W feel that you appreciate her, and if she thought of coming home you would be much more intune with her needs than you ever were.

2) She thought I had a testosterone issue because my sex drive was low. After the BD, I wanted to show her that I am interested in fixing it and so after a lot of blood tests it turns out my Vitamin D is very VERY low from being at work all day inside and not getting enough sun (another by product of working too much for your family!). So, I have been taking my daily vitamins now, and W has actually asked me if i have been taking the vitamins. Not that it seems to matter to her right now since she is not giving me a chance to 'perform' so to speak.

3) How do we become the husband only a fool would leave? I mean we probably already are in that category. Now, I know you will all jump down my throat saying that if that was true we wouldn't be here. I understand that. What I mean is at least for me, my W and I are compatible in EVERY other way! We both like to stay home and watch TV together, we like to cook for each other, we like to debate political issues together after seeing something new on TV, we have been together for 14 years, 11 of which were spent alone with no kids. We have done A LOT of things together and traveled and did some wonderful stuff. We are really in my opinion, made for each other whether she realizes it right now or not. The ONLY real issue is the sex and the affection and the ego boost that gives her, and that is EXACTLY what OM is providing. Nothing more, nothing less.

So, I guess I will re iterate my question because I am very stuck at this point. How do I show her I promise to be a stallion and bang that sh*t every night if I have to take viagra or whatever!

Also, about the trading down thing that I mentioned in my previous post. I didn't make that up, that is actually documented it seems. Its not about worrying what job the OM does, it is about your W. She feels hurt from being with someone who puts success so high up on the priority list, that she will now look for someone who doesn't really care about that stuff. Plus, when there is a self esteem issue, as in the case of my W, she needs someone who is also not so attractive so that she can be the best he has ever dreamed of having. That way his obssession with her beauty will be very clear for her. Its just a point to think about with all your W's. I think it is important to understand the pyschology behind the WAW so that you know what you are up against!