Interesting post. My W rewrote our entire history. However, she also picked up on isolated incidents and made them sound like they were commonplace. Her friends all sympathise with her of course but a few mutual friends have said they know our M wasn't like that and I am not the person she is describing.
I read a lot on how the mlcer looks for someone to blame for their unhappiness, that they turn to the S as the reason and that they then start the process of justifying why they are unhappy with S which starts them down the re-writing history. I do think they believe what they say and if u read posts from mlcers a lot say that the good memories do start to come back and this can start rebuilding some sort of connection with the LBS. Memories only the 2 of u will have shared.
But the fog clouds everything and if an A is involved then they will stop at nothing to justify their decision to themselves and others. Which is why re-writing is very common in A sitchs.
