Thanks Spartan,
I have read your sitch. Some real similarities: talk vs stonewall, trust issues vs lying, control vs. feeling controlled.
I don’t think I am being mean, but you never know how perceived. Just try to act distant and indifferent. She knows this is a change.
I have not done too much GAL as I am the one normally home with kids, but going out for coffee with a pal tonight and dinner with a female friend on Thursday. Only issue with that is, I think she likes me and has made comments as such. She is D’d for 8 years, is very good looking and has a 12 year old. She has been flirty with me. She knows my sitch. I don’t think I am ready to cross any lines….I never have. Though My W has.


M17 yrs.
me49
xW47
d15
d11

BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out)
Therapy 9 months (tried 2)
BD2- May/12(sep)
Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50
Sold home - Aug/13
Court #2 - Dec/13
Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again
We settled.