I think I read somewhere on the thread "Musings from Amy C " That the MLCer means what they say at the time they say it.
It certainly doesn't mean it is true.
I remember a specific rewriting instance with my H. It was a few days after bomb, and we were having a talk. He told me that my niceness towards him annoyed him, that it didn't seem genuine. So I asked him, "Are you saying that I haven't been nice to you all these years?"
He got very flustered, couldn't look at me. He stammered out, "Well, not this nice."
This was so early on, I didn't yet know about MLC or DBing. Yet, I am glad I questioned him about his rewriting statement. He did seem confused.
I guess it goes back to that we never really know for sure what they are thinking in that Swiss cheese brain of theirs. I have long accepted the TRUTH of the history of our M. It WAS good, we were most certainly happy and in love. Rewriting history is their problem, not ours.
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
