I've been revisiting many past instances where this was true, remembering how I bubble-wrapped H or took charge and was the decision maker, possibly emasculating H (not intentionally, my intents were to take care of things and get things done). But she reminded me how I rarely LET him take care of me, even when I desperately wanted him to.
I relate to your independence in the relationship. Us LDers really have to be independent people, or we can't survive LDs very long.
I can so relate. I was the decision maker.
It is still a bit bewildering to me how much I still miss him, even when he was not physically there most of the time. Where's all my so-called independence now?
