I don't want to say what I'd do with the letter. I "write" to H all the time, but never give them to him. I fee like he doesn't care, so no response from him would be so hard and painful. What do you expect from him once you give him the letter? You know, I asked H to sit down and talk with me, but I've changed my mind. I really think he "OWES" it to me. But more than anything he owes me time to get use to the dismise of our marriage. He says he's been thinking about it for a year (which I think is a lie) so I think he can give me time to "think" about it too.

Honestly, we NEVER faught or even talked about our relationship. He NEVER told me how he felt. He expected me to read his mind, as I expected him too. I blame him, but really it was both our faults. It's just I wasn't thinking about walking away and I wasn't the one that had the affair. I knew something was wrong, but because of his work/injury I assume it was more that. But yes, we were both at fault. I'd love to sit down an tell H that, but I don't think he is ready or wants to hear it. Do they ever?


Me: 41
H: 43
M: 21 yrs
DD: 15

1st bombshell: 2002 - 6 months
2nd bombshell/moved out: 10/03/2012
OW: 10/12/2012
Signed MDA & PP: 11/20/12; but not submitting
Confirmed OW living with H: 11/21/12