SB- I know what I am going to say is going to seem impossible, but you have to let it go. Don't ask him a thing about it. Take it at face value, even though your gut tells you its more than that.

If you ask, he will get defensive. You will get more hurt. Don't focus on the hurt. It will get you no where but into more hurt.

These are his decisions and from what I have learned there is nothing that can be said that will change things RIGHT NOW. He has to go through it. And he cannot see or face the damage he is causing in his wake right now.

I would think that your H is a lot more confused and torn about the way things are right now and even his decisions. He is trying to find something. Right now, he is looking externally for what he is looking for. He needs to go through this so that he can hopefully, and eventfully realize that he needs to start looking within.

I think of you often and hope you can keep the focus on YOU.

I know this is hard. My H is currently on holiday with his OW too....

lots of love (((((( )))))

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home