I sent him a text that just said "I CAN NOT DO THIS". Of course got no response at all. Which just added to the pain. And then this morning I regreted sending it. So, I just sent one this morning that said, please encourage DD to study for her exams. And hope everything works out for them in GA. He is going a business/hunting trip. He responded this morning that he "told her last night when I was going to bed to make sure she did good on her exams". Not exactly the re-enforcements I needed, but I guess better than nothing. The thing is ... I called DD into the living room and told her that I really needed her to step up and help me out. Just do really good in school, do what I ask without me asking a million times, just make things easier. That I needed her to. She was like okay, why? I just said, I'm holding on by a thread and I need help. My husband has left me for another women and my heart is in a million pieces and I don't feel like it's ever going to be whole again. Probably way to much for a 15 year old, but I figured she needed to hear my pain. She said that is the reason I want to go off on him. I said you can say anything you want to him. But it'll have to wait, he's leaving tomorrow for a trip. She said I blame her, it's all her fault. I said no it's not, she said YES IT IS. I said, we'll it's both their fault. She is SO angry, where I can SO hurt. What is bad, I truly believe he won't care that she is angry. Nothing will cause him to come back at this point. He has to figure it out on his own.
It pretty much [censored], doesn't it? I am sorry your DD is so young and has to indure it. And I'm sorry your H was a no show. That would make me soooo mad. I really try not to show much anger at H since DD is carrying so much, but in that situation, it would be hard not to.
"If he doesn't want to be a family man and a H again, then we are better off without him. It'll take time but its what will have to happen." - great statement, but so hard!
Me: 41 H: 43 M: 21 yrs DD: 15
1st bombshell: 2002 - 6 months 2nd bombshell/moved out: 10/03/2012 OW: 10/12/2012 Signed MDA & PP: 11/20/12; but not submitting Confirmed OW living with H: 11/21/12
