I have the same feelings. Part of me is having problems being friends because my H certainly doesn't treat me like a friend. Or at least how I see him treat his "other" friends. I told him early on that he was my BF and H responded "Well, you're not mine."
So I get the pacifier aspect. Like keeping some contact will be good for a while until you can stand completely on your own.
I'm glad that you thought about you in not going to the holiday function. And it sounds like you had a pretty decent talk with your H. I agree on the gf introduction. That is something I will dread, at least in the short term. I wouldn't want a bunch of gf's traveling in and out of my child's life. The S and/or D will be enough trama for now.
Yep some pretty decent stuff and he said he is beginning to get the trust back little by little.
In terms of friends, emotional intimacy= physical intimacy for me and he has made it very clear that he is done with me. Obviously LL is physical and that tank emptied a long time ago.
So that is what I have to grapple with. Will he trust and open up and want to begin a new R or will he be happy to cake eat his way though the next little while?
These are hard questions to answer. So I continue to DB without thinking how will this effect H rather, how will this affect me?
GAL for me...sign up for gym plus my volunteer stuff plus going out with girls.
Catch up tonight as I go tech dark for the day lol!
