Hey! To answer your question, what I'm learning by reading your posts is what might be going through my H's head now that he wants a D. I would play the role of XW1 (I do hope this is not the case!)But anyway, I see how he thinks that after being M for 11 years, he just doesn't feel that exhilarated feeling, and is ready to seek someone new. However, he does not intend to take time to think what went wrong, but can't wait to jump into a new R, which will prob not work out. I know everyone is different, but reading your posts helps me understand his view point a little more.
That said, I can see you're analyzing and learning, so you have a high prob of being successful if you continue on this path...And that's good news!
