One more thing. It's always "Our" bed/bedroom. Even if you're not in it at the moment, don't ever call it her bed or allow her do so without (non-confrontational) comment from you.
I do understand what you are saying. I definitely need to be more assertive. Having had time to really scrutinise my relationship and the way I am/was with my W, there is no doubt that I need to work hard on this aspect. I was forever walking on eggshells, not wanting to upset the Applecart. I would then reach my tipping point and get angry (shouting). This is one of the things she accused me of "losing my temper", and I can't deny it. I regretted it straight away, because I knew that I would be getting the "cold shoulder" for the next day or two. I will NOT be going down that route ever again.
Reading this back, it makes it sound like my W is a tryant, she definitely isn't, she is just hard to live with sometimes.
Thanks again FY, for your excellent advice, it is appreciated.
Me48; W44 M20; T25 S17 & S15 Bomb (IDLYA) 27/10/12 Still living together
