My wife wants to separate

[FloydMan]

I am very angry too but I don't look at it as trading up or down. I really don't care what someone does for a living. The fact is he wants what you want and you resent him for that. I have a lot of resentment too. Working my butt off not to feel appreciated. My W says I never appeciated her. Well, I know that is not true but it is her perception. she has had so many excuses but she is accountable for her actions..not me or the other dude. We only need to accept our share of the dysfunction in the M to begin with and not how our W's handled it or didn't handle it. Unfortunately my W is still in blame mode for everything. Your W is rebelling and that would mean having the opposite of you. She is also rebelling against what everyone thinks. Has she ever been able to have an opinion in her whole life? .... I mean prior to you as well. My W is rebelling against things prior to me and me. She has a good paying job as a bank manager... Though I have made 2x as much and it is all spent. Get this....the OM was a PO.ice detective that struck it up with her after an armed robbery at the bank. She was the 911 caller. He was married with kids too. Never caught the robber. She also resents my relationship with my kids. I never knew she thought I was closer to them...I always thought she was. That came out last year in therapy 6 months before separation.