4311, take this with a grain of salt. It was just posted today by a member who's H "left" her, 6 years ago. The reason I reference it is because it reminded me of your post above regarding leaving your X1 alone with her new life as you don't want to cause her grief.

The grain of salt I mention is to disregard the labels of MLC/WAS or what ever. Just think of it as someone who, even though they are happy in their new life, still "hopes" for closure:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2307751#Post2307751

I would love to get your feedback here, regarding that (first) post.